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Abstract Thoughts has been updated with The Zen Approach - the short but not-so-sweet of it.

September 21, 2009
The Zen Approach

God grant me the serenity
to accept the things I cannot change;
courage to change the things I can;
and wisdom to know the difference.

--Reinhold Niebuhr

Life has hit "frappe" where it comes to stress levels right now. I had to look up the Serenity Prayer this morning because it is what I was thinking of last night. I've hit a point in my life where I have done everything I can do to get to where I want to go. Everything else is in someone else's hands.

You all have no idea how much I hate that. I hate not being able to do for myself. But, right now, I'm waiting on contracts. I'm waiting other writing gigs. I'm waiting for someone to fall in love with my house so I can sell it. I am waiting until then so Jeff and I can buy the condo we want. There is only so much we can do for these things and … well… we've done them.

Now, we wait. And try to be patient.

I am stressed enough that I almost burst into tears at the last ECC game because of how our players were treating the staff. (Almost) no one was hostile. But there was a constant stream of "You're wrong." And "I can't believe you guys are doing this." And accusations of picking on players and the like. I have to say, I do not spend 20 hours a week helping to run a game just because I hate our players and want to hurt them. But the offhand snide comments – from all quarters – former STs and never-been-STs alike – are wearing me down.

Apparently, according to the Staff poll for the game, I need to smile more. It's hard to smile when people are constantly (metaphorically) throwing sh*t at you. Harder still when your foundation is on shaky ground like mine is. I realized I am hitting a breaking point and something has got to give.

So, I'm going to try to take the Zen Approach to things for a while. I have to trust that the universe is not going to screw me or my husband over. I have to trust that the contracts will come in. I will be paid and that all will be well. Eventually, the current crop of players who are constantly belittling the staff will get bored and move on. Eventually, the house will sell, we will move and I won't have to worry about making sure the house is clean-clean-clean and ready to show at all times.

This, too, will pass. But, I have to say, it kinda sucks while it is here.


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Sep. 21st, 2009 08:23 pm (UTC)
Waiting is always hard on me too.
Sep. 21st, 2009 08:39 pm (UTC)
I'm sorry things are so strung out for you.

You've got the patience of a saint re: your players. Well done!
Sep. 21st, 2009 08:41 pm (UTC)
I know exactly of which you speak. Different genre, different organization, but volunteer staff who make judgment calls are always subject to inquisitions from players who don't like the judgment made.

I'm sorry, and all I can recommend is the long term approach you are already doing; Wait them out and do your thing in spite of it.
Sep. 21st, 2009 08:57 pm (UTC)
A little faith goes a long way.
You're doing everything right. Now, just got to let things take their course.

It's the way I get through things. :-)

Sep. 22nd, 2009 12:36 am (UTC)

Being out of control like that is a sucky feeling. I hope you get some resolution on the myriad things you're waiting on soon.

Edited at 2009-09-22 12:36 am (UTC)
Sep. 22nd, 2009 01:26 am (UTC)
Be well, brave soul. The world will yo-yo back to your side soon enow.
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