Jennifer (gaaneden) wrote,


Abstract Thoughts has been updated with Panther, Not Cougar. which is mostly about my dating and writing lives.

May 9, 2007
Panther, Not Cougar
Since Spring has Sprung in a big way around La Casa de Jennifer, I've been dating up a storm and enjoying the heck out of life. No real details here. I tend to keep my romantic life fairly private for the most part and leave the squee-ing to the gossiping with friends. However, as I have a tendency to date men younger than myself, I have discovered that I am now considered a "Cougar."

"The term "Cougar" originated in Vancouver and was used to describe older women who wait until the bar is closing and then go home with whatever younger man is left standing. Over time, the term has evolved slightly and now refers to women in their 30's and 40's who are financially stable, but who choose to date substantially younger men. Either way, it is a win-win situation. ...

... There are the Alpha Cougars, who are the sophisticated, wealthy, sexy, and intelligent older women who are looking for a physical relationship with a younger man in order to feel sexually empowered. Then there are the Beta cougars; still hot, but with lower self esteem. Beta cougars usually sleep with younger guys to feel better about themselves. ..."

Once I discovered this term, it amused the heck out of me and I started seeing it used in mass media. I spread the term and the article around to my friends and those I was/am dating. Almost universally, I was told I certainly was not a cougar as presented in the article. I was a much more interesting and dangerous animal altogether. I agreed. Because, you know, everyone wants to be a unique little snowflake. Besides that, I'm already sexually empowered and if I were to sleep with someone to make myself feel better about me, I would have broken this drought a long time ago.

In any case, all of the men in my life decided that I was more of a panther than cougar. I've decided I like that. It amuses me. If guys are dogs and girls are cats and older, more experienced women are cougars, I like being a panther. Same general family but just doesn't fit the mold. Being a black big cat better than being the black sheep by a long shot and a hell of a lot more fun. I am enjoying my spring. There is no doubt to that.

I have just ended my fourth month of my Writing Sabbatical Year. Let's see where my Year-to-Date report card is:

  • Submissions: 17 of 60+ (Behind)
  • New Short Stories: 12 of 24+ (ahead)
  • Freaky Friday Fictions: 19 of 50+ (on track)
  • Books read: 10 of 24+ (ahead)
  • Novel #1: Draft One Completed (on track)
  • Novel #2: outlined, word count: 500 (on track)

    Also, for a tiny but good announcement: Margaret Weis Productions announcement from the GAMA Trade Show: Dragonvarld Adventures, a complete sourcebook for running OGL games set in the world of Margaret Weis' Dragonvarld series, debuts in November. The 352-page mass-market paperback ($6.99 MSRP) includes an original novella, plus rules for dragon magic, half-dragons, dragon-blooded characters, and world and character information that opens up the future of Dragonvarld beyond the original trilogy.

    This is the book I co-wrote with Margaret Weis! I can finally see a light for it being released to the public. Now, if I can wrestle the cover image from my editor's busy little hands, I will be a happy, happy author! I've already got the artwork. I want the mocked up book cover with my name on it now.

    I have started my Young Adult novel, AKA Novel #2. I have to admit, the beginning here is very slow going. Slower than I like. It might be partly because beginnings are really hard for me. It is also because I'm mildly distracted by Spring, men and upcoming trips. Not to mention a bit of spring cleaning. It just means that I need to stop slacking and get my ass in gear like I did for Novel #1. The problem with Novel #2 is that it can either be the first of a trilogy and be short (50,000 words or so) or it could be the whole story in one LARGE book (100,000+ words). I'm not sure which way I want to go with it. I think, I'm just going to start writing and watch what happens.

    I am an official guest type panelist person this year at BayCon. This is my schedule as I know it. Be fair warned that it may change.

  • 5/25/2007 14:30 Best Presents For Geeks
  • 5/25/2007 16:00 Growing Up Geek

  • 5/26/2007 14:30 World Creation for Gamers

  • 5/27/2007 10:00 Fun Ways to Kill Your Characters

  • 5/28/2007 10:00 Pandemic Flu
  • 5/28/2007 14:30 Why and When to use a Pseudonym

    I'm pretty happy with it. I've already started getting together stuff and books and things for these panels. I've not done panels at Bay Con. So, I don't know how boisterous they get or how interactive. I want to make sure that we're not sitting up there looking at a silent, bored room. I'm pretty sure it will all be all right in the end but I sure wouldn't mind a couple of friendly, familiar faces in the audience.

    I know I have two freelancer business type meetings to go to while I'm at Bay Con. But, the rest of my time is free to hang out with my Bay Area friends. If you have time and would like to see me while I'm there, please let me know. I will make room for you in my schedule.

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