May 2nd, 2005


The Talk with Mom

I don't believe it. I just had that talk with my Mom. The one where she assures me someday I may still want to have children. I was flabbergasted. I'm 34 years old. Believe me; I do not want to have a child in the house or as a teenager when I'm 50+. If I had a child right NOW, my kid would be 16 when I was 50. No. I can't do that. I don't want to do that. The conversation went like this:

Me: I've been thinking about having the Essure procedure done. I'm not really thrilled about the idea of an IUD. It's not like I'm currently sexually active but, it's something I've been thinking of.

Mom: What's Essure?

Me: *Explain the Essure procedure*

Mom: Oh, honey, you're too young for that.

Me: Why? It's not like I'm going to have kids.

Mom: I know you don't want kids but what if you get married?

Me: We'll have cats and we'll be very happy.

Mom: You mean to tell me if you find the perfect guy, you're not going to have children with him?

Me: Yep. Because, if he's the perfect guy for me, he doesn't want kids.

Mom: You're still too young. You should wait until you're 40 before you think of something like that. You may change your mind.

Me: Ok, Mom. We've reached that point where we have to agree to disagree...

I do not actively dislike children as a rule. There are some I can't deal with. There are some I like to play with for short periods of time. In general, kids are alright as long as they don't have mental problems and are brought up well. I know I'm not great with kids even though most of them seem to really like me. I know that I have issues with children. I am careful to talk to my friends who have children that, mostly, the problem is me. I have very particular ideas of how children should act and such. So, if I decline an invitation because of the kids, I will be honest about it but this not to say that they are bad parents. Just that I can't deal with kids at that time. If I had my own, there's no way I could get away from it and I can't imagine. It would just be hell for me, I think.

(Cross-posted to childfree_zone and my LJ.)