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On Keeping Quiet

Okay. So, earlier today I twittered (which also went to Facebook and Google+) the following:

Good news: I don't have Barretts disease (throat cancer). Bad news: I do have a hiatal hernia. Still counting this one as a win. http://bit.ly/ttzVCB

Since then I've gotten some concerned and irritated email about it.

First, I am sorry I upset some people with this.

The truth is, it is the first time everyone is hearing about this. Except for my husband. This includes the rest of my immediate family. Yes, mom had a few follow up questions. I will tell you basically what I told her:

For about two weeks, I have been waiting for an outpatient procedure called an endoscopy to determine if Barretts was the cause of my sudden worsening of my reflux. I had the choice of telling the world and letting everyone who cared for me worry for two weeks. Or not telling anyone until I knew for sure.

I chose the latter and spent my emotional energy on me and my husband. Better that only me and the husband freaked out for two weeks than everyone I knew.

That procedure was done today. I knew today that I did not have cancer.

As for the hiatal hernia, that was a surprise. I will probably spend the next month talking with the doctors about this. I really don't know what I'm going to do next. Until I know all the options and such, I probably won't talk about it again.

But once I know what course of action I will take, I will let people know.

Thank you all for being concerned. I appreciate it.

I really am sorry.

Comments

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strixluna
Nov. 17th, 2011 02:31 am (UTC)
*hugs*

I tend to do that a little too, very often you'll see me mention stuff in my LJ only once I've had my however many days or weeks of processing it on my own. Also, I tend to talk about things that could be potentially bad after they've already resolved into not so bad. So I totally get it.

I get that folks worry and that they want to ease the burden of worry for their loved ones. But really, no one can do that. It sucks sometimes, but that's just the way it works. Sure, maybe your friends and family could worry along with you over stuff, but that wouldn't actually make you worry any less.

Anyway, I'm glad that it wasn't the worst case scenario!
shutt3rg33k
Nov. 17th, 2011 02:40 am (UTC)
I am very glad you don't have cancer. I don't see why you owe apologies to people about boundaries you choose to set around your personal business. I feel like grrring at them but it is not my place or business.

I hope everything else turns out to be fixable with a minimum of yuck.

*hugs*
unkyrich
Nov. 17th, 2011 03:55 am (UTC)
^ ^ ^ ^

This. A million times.

Exactly how I feel. It's none of our business what you choose to share or don't share regarding any personal business, including your own health.

I could go on, but that'll probably draw more unnecessary drama.

I'm glad it's not cancer, I hope whatever it is isn't too hard to fix, and hope you and your husband are otherwise doing well.
xjenavivex
Nov. 17th, 2011 02:43 am (UTC)
I am sorry that you are dealing with this. I know they are no fun. I am so glad it isn't Barretts.
talvinm
Nov. 17th, 2011 03:24 am (UTC)
For whatever it is worth, I am glad you waited.

One of my friends who is local to me recently posted the *possibility* that she *might* have a brain tumor...

...the night before the memorial service for another friend who recently died of cancer. I sorta lost it at that point. It was the last straw.

And then it turned out to be a false alarm. Yes, there is a problem, but it's not brain cancer, it's not terminal, etc. etc. I am not angry at her, she was/is dealing with a huge personal mess, but yeah: I finally broke down at that point.

You invested your emotional energy where you needed to, and fie upon those who would criticize you for that. Too, you are a "public figure", and if you had posted the possibility of cancer, it would be all over the fansites in a flash, and then the "Well, no, it's not cancer, it's a hernia" would not make the rounds, and you'd have a mess to deal with.

Finally, what's the point of all these laws protecting your private medical info if you aren't allowed to keep it, you know: private? Them what has a right to know, knew, them what didn't (and that's the rest of us) should be grateful you feel like sharing at all.
wastededucation
Nov. 17th, 2011 04:57 am (UTC)
On the plus side, and without having done more extensive research, the folks I know that have had the latter seemed to be more happy than those with the former overall.

Remember, faith healing will only make your ears ring, bruise your forehead, and give you a neck ache... just sayin'
naamah_darling
Nov. 17th, 2011 05:00 am (UTC)
*hugs*

Glad it's just a hernia.

Sorry you have a hernia.

*more hugs*

I don't blame you for conserving your energy. <3 Totally reasonable policy.
eyezofwolf
Nov. 17th, 2011 06:07 pm (UTC)
Holy...

*big hugs* I am sorry to hear about the hernia. But SO glad it isn't cancer!!!!
deire
Nov. 18th, 2011 12:18 am (UTC)
*hugs* No need to be sorry. You do what you need to do for your own health and sanity.
digitaleopard
Nov. 19th, 2011 01:52 am (UTC)
...three cheers for having a hernia? As opposed to the alternative, anyway.

Screw the ones who are unhappy that you are pleased about not having *throat cancer*. Seriously. Anyone who cares about you will be ecstatic.
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